Conflicts 1
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Losing friends is about as easy as making friends if you don’t know how to deal with anger and conflict. Conflict is part of everyone’s life. It will show up at school, at work and at home. It’s OK to feel angry, frustrated, annoyed, disappointed or sad. These feelings are natural, but it’s how you deal with them that makes the difference. Some people scream, shout, swear, call people names, try to get back at or even hit the person who has hurt them. Others do their best to keep away from disagreements, because very few deal with conflicts successfully.
Resolving conflict is a step by step process. Before you start discussing the problem, cool off, count to 10, take a deep breath and imagine a relaxing place. Then, say what’s really bothering you. While doing that, watch how you express yourself. Don’t blame or accuse. Share how you feel by using “I” statements. For example, don’t say “You are always bossing me around,” but “I feel frustrated because you don’t pay attention to what I think.”
You want people to hear your opinion so make sure you practice what you preach. Listen carefully to the other person and accept that he or she might see the problem in a different way. Be flexible and open-minded, willing to apologise, forgive and move on.
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Can people live in Peace? Someone could say: Yes, we can! But it is so difficult because there are a lot of conflicts in our world. Conflict is natural thing in our life. It is obvious that mankind mustn’t forget about conflicts.
There are different kinds of conflicts: personal, political and global.
Personal conflicts are happen between people: between classmates, friends, roommates, colleagues, between students and teachers, in a family, etc. They happen because people are different: they have different opinions, values, ideas.
I would like to talk about conflicts in a family. The most common is between children and their parents. The reason of such conflict is generation gap. They argue about clothes, music, fashion, friends, career. It is impossible to prevent all conflicts, but we can try to minimize them.
The second group of conflicts is political. Political conflicts can be a real threat for people and for states, because they lead to wars. What does the word «war» mean? War always means economical and cultural decay of the countries: damage of industry and agriculture, distraction of natural resources and cultural values. But the most serious consequences of wars are human victims. The World War 2 is one of most dramatic conflicts of the twentieth century. Just imagine over 26million people were died during war in Russia. The Universal Declaration of Human Rights appeared soon after World War 2. People in many countries suffered greatly in that war. They hoped that the declaration would help to prevent future wars. But since that time, there has notbeen a time on our planet without war.
But the most terrifying conflicts is between people in the Earth. For the last 40 years people have badly damaged our planet. Nowadays, there are a lot of environmental problems, which can result from conflict between people and nature: pollution of different kinds (water, land, air, new clear pollution), shortage of natural resources, etc.
Building peace begins with you family, your school and your relationship with your friends. Every day you meet people whose thoughts and ideas are different from your own. You should learn to respect the opinions and values that are different from yours you should be tolerant. But remember that you have the right to disagree with values different from your own.
So, can we live in Peace? I think we can. But first of all people must change their attitudes to all people, to the world, and must learn to respect the right of other people and listen to each other. The adviceis simple: be tolerant, optimistic, try to cheer up people and love nature!
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Children are exposed to many outside influences more than anyone else. Often it has an impact on their psyche, behavior and future life. One of such influences is conflict. We can`t avoid it, especially kids. Researches shows that children have about three conflicts per hour. They face problems in various areas.
Firstly is a family. If the child has brother or sister then sibling`s conflict are inevitable. There are many reasons for that. Primary reason is that all children are a little bit selfish and greedy. They aren`t ready to share and actually want to possess everything immediately; Because siblings often compete for parental attention, parental support and household resources such as toys, gadgets and another material things.
Secondary reasons include try to deserve a parental credit. If your parents trust you, it means that you get more freedom and have an advantage over the often siblings. Also children using conflict to test their power establish differences and ventilate emotions. These conflicts can be the most ardent because siblings are in tight proximity to each other both emotionally and physically.
Parent and child conflicts can occur for many reasons.
First of all, some families experience conflict as a result of different views about important issues. Parents who grew up in a different generation often have trouble understanding today`s society. Often families have problems resolving parent’s expectations for their children. Often parents imagine a result in frequent conflict if the children follow a different direction. Also, there are a parent-child power struggle can create stress for the entire family. Power struggle frequently result from different parent and child temperament or difficult developmental stages. Nowadays many families communicate superficially and don`t have time to children. Child may be feel themselves very lonely.
Sometimes conflict occurs outside the home. Kids argue with their friends almost as well as with their siblings. The reasons are almost the same. Who gets what? Who does what? Who goes first? Who gets most? Who`s right? And who best? / Mostly they argue about who gets to play with what and who can or can`t do what?
Children like to argue with adults because they also have conflict with their teachers. Primary reason is that kids are very high opinion about yourself and they suppose that they all know. Children can be disagreeing with their valuations, with comment about their behavior.
All kids are emotional and often to keep calm is difficult for them. Conflict is just a natural component of our human condition. But ongoing conflict can be stressful and damaging to children.
Parents and other relatives should help them to resolve this differences situation.
In case conflict between sibling. In order for your children to gain self-confidence and independence, they should be encouraged to handle conflict on their own. Parents can`t save their children every time someone says or does something mean, but parents can provide advice. Adults should help to negotiate and to find compromise.
Parents can head off potential problems between their children if they will give an equal amount of parental love and acceptance. They should spend a lot of time together and have closest relationships between each other. It`s cruel than parents exhibit reciprocity and sharing, good listening skills and tolerance.
In case conflict between parent and child:
Try to cool off first if you feel too angry to talk calmly. Respect the other person`s point of view by playing attention and listening.
You should talk clearly and reasonable, that child with understand you. Don`t interrupt while they are speaking. Try to reach a consensus about which solution will best resolve the conflict. Sometimes parents-children conflict requires professional help.
Ways to resolve conflicts are so many. And we should use their.